The Forgotten Emotion
Maybe it's not always about trying to fix something broken. Maybe it's about starting over and creating something better.
Forgiveness, it seems to be one of the hardest emotions for a lot of people to process. Whether you like to admit it or not, humans are egotistical beings and forgiveness doesn’t come easy to a lot of us.
I’d like to think of myself as a pretty forgiving person, I at least try to give everyone I can the benefit of the doubt. This mindset of mine has grown so strong because I have seen the direct, destructive effects what being high strong and not forgiving someone can do.
Everyone reading this has at some point in their life, been in a situation where they have been so hurt, or betrayed, the last thing that you want to do is forgive the person; but what so many people don’t understand is that forgiveness is a necessity. Without the act of forgiveness, we would be stuck our whole lives, and that actually happens to a lot of people. Not forgiving, holds you back, keeps negative energies surrounding you and burdening your soul. When you chose to forgive someone, you are never giving them the right to hurt you again, or saying that what they did is okay, but you are claiming your inner strength and taking back any hurt that was inflicted upon you.
Including how to start forgive people is a very important piece to this post. I don’t only want you to understand how lack of forgiveness can change our lives, because chances are you already know the effects. Taking steps towards forgiveness will always be presented to you in a thousand different ways: Sometimes people will beg for your forgiveness, other times, they will face you with no remorse and you will have to grant them that forgiveness even when they don’t ask. These kinds of moments, the times when people never give you a chance to even contemplate forgiveness, are very, very hard; and you’ll find in life, very few people will ever muster up the courage to ask you for your forgiveness.
When you find yourself in moments of hesitation and the absolute last thing you want to do is forgive that person, here are a few things to remember:
Everyone around you is CONSTANTLY forgiving people; think of how many times in your life, you have accidently bumped a stranger, or stepped on someone's toe, even cut someone off in traffic. In those flashes of situations, you are assuming that the other person will grant you unconditional forgiveness. No one is still holding a grudge against you because you stepped on their toe three years ago.
Think of all the times where you wanted nothing more than someone’s forgiveness for a shitty thing you did. Think of how at peace and happy you would’ve been if you were given that forgiveness- now look at your current situation and realize that you could grant that person a lot more than you know if you forgive them. By you simply forgiving them, could be setting in motion a series of events that will make them never want to hurt someone ever again.
If you have tried with every bone in your body to forgive someone (but just can’t) at least remind yourself that the act of forgiveness is going to bring a lot more enlightenment and peace to yourself than anyone else in the situation. Forgiving someone is just as much for you as it is the other person; if anything, you deserve the right to not be held back by someone else’s wrongdoings.