Healing From Him
There is a really big social stigma with girls that you shouldn’t “waste your time crying over a boy” but the truth is, you aren’t crying over just a boy, you’re crying over losing someone who you really cared about in your life.
Breakups are one of the weirdest but most inevitable things in life. One day you have a really special person in your life who you get to share so much with, and then the next day they are gone, and you are expected to erase them from your life.
The breakup process is different for everyone, but I think the number one advice that I have for someone who is going through a breakup is: give yourself time to heal. There is a really big social stigma especially with girls that you shouldn’t “waste your time crying over a boy” but the truth is, you aren’t crying over a just a boy, you’re crying over losing someone who you really cared about in your life. I’d honestly be concerned if you weren’t upset after a breakup- so don’t feel like you have to rush the process of moving on because it’s just going to prolong that process in reality.
Distancing yourself from that other person in any way you can is going to help; this can be done is many different ways. Social media is the first one that comes to mind for me. I’m personally not into blocking people but it varies depending on how your relationship ended. I can say first hand it is really hard to not go and stalk them on social media, so if blocking them, even if it’s just temporary is something you think will help you, then make that decision.
There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are messengers of overwhelming grief… and unspeakable love.
There is no exact formula for how to get over a breakup, and in the moment it can be really difficult to ever imagine you finding another connection like you once had with someone, and it may seem impossible to move on- but you do, and as much as it may bring you down in the moment you have to let go of the things that are not meant to be in your life, and start making room for the things that are.
I hope this brings you some clarity and healing to your life,
With all my love,