It's Okay To Not Be Okay
As a girl growing up in today’s culture I have always felt the unspoken pressure to be the “cool girl” the one who’s “down”, a girl who’s “strong” and “resilient”, but never have I been allowed to fall apart.
Something that is very perplexing to me is how emotions are perceived in today’s society- maybe it’s an American thing but it seems that people have a really difficult time expressing feelings and being honest. I think it grows from the fact that we are taught from a very young age that if we show any amount of natural, human emotions, we are WEAK. Guys are labeled, “pussys” and girls are called “drama queens” or “bitches”.
Through this notion, people build walls, bottle up emotions, and put up facades, and then they break. And when they break, the labels continue: “crazy”, “psycho”.
The reality is that our society has become so broken that people are literally shamed for having natural, uncontrollable human reactions. We have numbed our people and told them that if someone asks you “how are you”, to say what THEY want to hear, even if it’s not the truth.
Why It’s Okay Not To Be Okay:
I consider myself to be a pretty big optimist, so don’t think I’m trying to preach pessimism in this post. I can confidently say that I’m always trying to be more positive but I’m not afraid to stay true to my emotions (which are sometimes sad and dark), and these kinds of emotions are inevitable in life. No matter how much you try, you’ll never really be able to live without them.
So I digress back to my original point: the perplexing but also simple fact that everyone (yes, everyone) has emotions- so why do we keep hiding them from each other? We’re all equal, we all really have no idea what we’re doing, we all have the same amount of hours in a day, so can’t we just come to the realization that humans have to go through their own struggles everyday, and that it’s okay, to not be okay.
With all my love,