Fall in love with your solitude - Rupi Kaur
I’ve had the perspective of being introverted my entire life, seventeen years to be exact. Although I’ve always found a great amount of comfort in my introversion, I constantly used to believe that it was a bad characteristic of mine, one that I would eventually have to outgrow in order to function as an adult. One of my largest traits that I noticed growing up, (that often set me apart from my peers), was my love for spending time by myself. I appreciated that freedom and independence immensely at a very early age. But as I began to notice over the years, there is this huge stigma surrounding solitude- you are often perceived as antisocial, or cold.
The psychology behind introverts is actually a lot more easy to understand than people who aren’t one think it may be. A psychologist explained it to me perfectly once, “For introverts, being in social environments tends to drain them, so they need their alone time in order to recharge,” and for anyone wondering, it’s the opposite case for extroverts, being alone tends to drain them emotionally, so they seek to recharge by being in social situations.
From the outside, solitude and loneliness look a lot alike, but they never have been for me. Loneliness always came from a negative mindset, and solitude was just another part of how I spent my days. Being in solitude was never my excuse for antisocial behavior, or avoiding people, it was and will always will be just another place that I am able to retreat to when I need it.